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How to Avoid Gifting the Binary This Holiday Season

November 23, 2022



The holiday season is a time for giving, but it's also a time when many people inadvertently give gifts that reinforce the gender binary. If you have a nonbinary friend or family member, you may be wondering how to avoid offending them with a gift that reinforces the gender binary. Here are some tips on how to avoid gifting the binary this holiday season.

First, let's start with what the gender binary is. The gender binary is the idea that there are only two genders, male and female. This is a harmful idea because it discounts the experiences of people who don't identify as either male or female. Nonbinary people often feel like they don't fit into either category and as a result, they can feel invisible and misunderstood.

When choosing a gift for a nonbinary person, it's important to avoid anything that reinforces the idea that there are only two genders. That means avoiding items like pink and blue clothes, dolls, and other toys that are marketed specifically to either boys or girls. It also means avoiding items that contain gendered language, such as "ladies" or "gentlemen's" items. Instead, opt for neutral colors and ungendered language when choosing a gift for a nonbinary person.

Another way to avoid gifting the binary this holiday season is to choose gifts that are not traditionally associated with either gender. For example, instead of buying a nonbinary person a gendered item, consider buying them something neutral related to their interests. Give an art lover art supplies, etc. These types of gifts can be enjoyed by people of any gender identity.

Finally, one of the best ways to avoid gifting the binary this holiday season is simply to ask your nonbinary friend or family member what they would like. They may have specific ideas about what they would like to receive, and they will appreciate your thoughtfulness in asking.

However, if you're in the mood for gifting surprises, below is a list of a few ideas:

Gift Cards
Gift cards are always a safe bet when it comes to giving gifts. They allow the recipient to choose their present, which means there's no risk of offending them with something that doesn't fit their taste or style. Plus, they're always appreciated!

Subscription Boxes
There are now subscription boxes for just about everything, so you're sure to find one that fits your nonbinary friend or family member's interests. This is a great option because it allows them to try out new things without having to commit to anything long-term. Plus, it's a gift that keeps on giving!

Instead of giving a physical object, why not give an experience instead? Tickets to a concert or show, a day at the spa, or even a simple dinner out can be great gifts that nonbinary people will appreciate. And who knows? Maybe you'll get to enjoy the experience with them!

The holidays are a time for giving and celebrating with our loved ones—not a time for accidentally offending them with thoughtless gifts. By following these simple tips, you can avoid gifting the binary this holiday season and show your nonbinary friends and family members that you respect and accept them just the way they are. Happy Holidays!

Written By: 

Kollyn Conrad




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