October 31, 2022
Halloween is a time for candy, costumes, and fun. But for parents of LGBTQIA+ children, it can also be a time of worry and stress. Will my child be safe? Will they be made fun of? What can I do to make sure they have a good time?
Here are some tips on how to support your LGBTQIA+ child this Halloween so that they can have a fun and safe holiday.
1. Talk to your child about their concerns.
The first step is to talk to your child about their worries and concerns. If you don't know what they're thinking or feeling, you won't be able to help them. So ask them questions like: What are you worried about? What would make you feel better? Who do you want to go trick-or-treating with? This will help you get an idea of what they need from you so that you can better support them.
2. Make a game plan.
Once you know your child's concerns, it's time to make a plan. If they're worried about being made fun of, come up with a code word that they can use if they feel unsafe or uncomfortable. This way, they can let you know without having to say anything out loud. If they're worried about being alone, see if there are any other families in the neighborhood that they can go trick-or-treating with. The more prepared you are, the less stressful Halloween will be for both of you.
3. Use supportive language.
Throughout the entire process, it's important to use supportive language with your child. This means using phrases like "I'm here for you" and "I love you no matter what." It also means avoiding phrases like "Are you sure?" or "Don't worry, it'll be fine." Remember, your child is the expert on their own experience, so it's important to validate their feelings and give them the space to express themselves.
4. Enjoy the fun!
Halloween should be a fun holiday for everyone involved, so make sure to take some time out for yourself as well! Whether it's watching scary movies together or picking out your favorite candy after trick-or-treating, find ways to enjoy the holiday with your child. This will help create positive memories that will last long after Halloween is over.
Halloween is a time for candy, costumes, and fun—but it can also be a time of stress and anxiety for parents of LGBTQIA+ children. By talking to your child about their concerns, making a plan, using supportive language, and taking some time out for yourself, you can help make Halloween a happy and safe holiday for everyone involved.