October 24, 2022
It is a sad reality that lesbians are more likely to experience violence than heterosexual women. 43.8% of lesbian and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, as compared to 35% of heterosexual women. There are many possible explanations for why this might be the case, but one theory is that lesbians are less likely to conform to traditional gender roles, which can lead to feelings of frustration and entitlement in some men. Whatever the reason may be, it is important for lesbians to be aware of the dangers they may face and to know what resources are available to them if they find themselves in an abusive situation.
Unfortunately, abuse is often not easy to spot, especially if you're in the middle of it. However, there are some warning signs that you can look out for in yourself or your partner that may indicate that abuse is present in your relationship. These warning signs include:
If you notice any of these warning signs in your relationship, it's important to reach out for help. Remember, you are not alone—some people care about you and want to help you stay safe.
Resources for Victims of Abuse
If you find yourself in an abusive situation, there are many resources available to help you escape the cycle of violence. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides 24/7 support for victims of domestic abuse through crisis counseling and information about shelters and legal options. The National Sexual Assault Hotline offers similar services specifically for victims of sexual assault. Many local organizations can provide support and assistance; a quick Google search should help you find ones near you.
No one deserves to be a victim of violence—not heterosexual women, not lesbians, not anyone. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, please reach out for help. You deserve to be safe and loved, and some people can help make that happen for you.